How To Find Your Twin Flame With These 15 Signs and 7 Relationship Stages

Have you met someone truly wonderful that you plan to be with for life? You have probably heard of a soul mate and wonder, “How do I know if I’ve met my soul mate?” But don’t just stop with soul mate! Not only do soul mates exist, there is an even deeper type of connection called a Twin Flame. Now, I’m sure you are asking, “What is a Twin Flame?” and “How do I know if I meet my Twin Flame?” I’m going to cover Twin Flame relationships in this article.

What is a Twin Flame?

A Twin Flame is a mirror soul or the other half of you. It is believed that souls split when they ascend to a high frequency, landing in two different people. We have talked about Energy Types before. A Twin Flame is going to be made from the same energy you are, and you will feel an attraction like a magnet! It doesn’t mean you will always be on the same page or agree, but you have the potential to become one again with a unified bond.

Twin Flame vs. Soulmate

The Twin Flame or mirror soul is not the same thing as a soulmate—it is a far deeper connection because it originated from the same source. This person won’t always be a romantic partner—it can be an intense connection of best friends, a true twin, or a business partner. A soulmate is made from the same energy as you but never existed in fusion with you in any past life or higher plane.

Your mirror will reflect back to you all of your fears and shadows, but also show your true strength and inner beauty. So, a mirror soul isn’t always flattering. You are going to have a hard time appreciating your Twin Flame if you struggle to work through your own shortcomings and appreciate you for you. While a soulmate feels almost made to be your match, a Twin Flame feels like someone you’ve always known.

“It wasn’t exactly love at first sight, but it was deeper than that. A sense of belonging to a place I never knew I wanted but somehow always needed. It was a home that carried a heartbeat.” – Nikki Rowe

The Origins of the Twin Flame Theory

The Twin Flame union is not a new concept. In Plato’s Symposium, he wrote about humans originally having four legs, four arms, and two heads. The humans were on a higher plane, fast and powerful. They scared the gods, and Zeus cut them in two to weaken them, resulting in twin souls. Within Plato’s Symposium, the poet Aristophanes speaks about soul splits, saying:

“Love is born into every human being; it calls back the halves of our original nature together; it tries to make one out of two and heal the wound of human nature. Each of us, then, is a ‘matching half’ of a human whole…and each of us is always seeking the half that matches him.”

This is one explanation for why we feel like we are missing something and why we look so hard to find a person who fulfills us. In the creation story of Genesis, this concept is a bit different. The story says God chose to separate his first two beings so they could be companions and not be alone among the animals.

While we won’t ever completely fulfill that empty space with another person, we can find our Twin Flame, and that will help us grow and ascend to a much higher plane. We still need God at the center of our very being, but with two halves back together, we are able to work towards a fuller understanding of ourselves.

Why are Twin Flame Relationships Important?

You may think finding a Twin Flame or mirror soul is all well and good, but what is the purpose of finding that relationship? With millions of people on the Earth, how could you ever find your Twin Flame?

You will find them because you will be drawn towards them no matter what obstacles are in life. Time and distance will not separate you from coming back together. The Twin Flame relationship allows us to strip the outer snakeskin of ego and face our wounded hearts, transforming into spiritually awake beings.

When brought together, Twin Flames will have a purpose to achieve tougher. This might be bringing conscious children into the world, but it could also include so many other things! You might work together to build up others or start an eco-conscious business. You could become spiritual guides and mentor others.

You don’t just complete each other; you are the catalyst for spiritual maturity for each other. The soul is complete on its own. The mirror soul is the other half of a whole that grows together. In a sense, it is the Yin and Yang relationship. Together, they are one and complete, but they are still distinct and separate.

15 Common Signs You Have Met Your Twin Flame

Perhaps you think you have already found your Twin Flame. Or maybe you are unsure and not seeing the mirror soul because you are not receptive to their presence. Stress, overworking, negative thoughts, and lifestyle habits can keep us from seeing our Twin Flame for who they are. You will have to love yourself before you will see your Twin Flame for the gem that they are. Here are 15 twin flame signs you might already be connected in some way to your Twin Flame:

  1. The intuition to know what the other person is doing, thinking, or feeling due to a natural soul connection.
  2. Sharing similar interests, preferences, values, and activities.
  3. Experiencing emotions and thoughts on the same level, even if you aren’t together in the same physical place.
  4. A strong pull to be physically close (romantically or platonically).
  5. Having the same dreams at night (or a similar message), and frequently appearing in each other’s dreams.
  6. Feeling like you can easily communicate without speaking out loud.
  7. A deep understanding of hidden complexities and deep parts of each other.
  8. Sharing issues, struggles, and weaknesses.
  9. A safe freedom to be your authentic self around them.
  10. A sensation that time doesn’t exist between you.
  11. Feelings of deja vu and recognition–as if you can’t remember what it was like before you were together.
  12. Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world.
  13. No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely.
  14. You experience spiritual growth through the relationship, like empathy, unconditional love, compassion, selflessness, and forgiveness.
  15. You can’t help but learn things about yourself when you are around a mirror soul.

7 Twin Flame Stages

When you’ve found your Twin Flame, there are typically seven stages you go through in your journey. If you know your stage, it can be easier to predict the flow of your relationship with your Twin Flame.

1. The Search

You have a yearning and strong feeling of lacking. You may not even be looking for a soulmate or thinking about relationships. You might have lots of friends and not feel lonely. But, there is something that causes you to wonder if there is a perfect match out there that would fill this feeling of lacking.

2. The Awakening

You meet your Twin Flame, and the awareness starts. At first, you might be too distracted or busy to even realize you have met that mirror half. Your compatibility and feeling of familiarity will be hard to ignore.

3. The Test

As you are trying to understand your relationship, there will be testing to understand the boundaries. You will explore the limitations and depth of the potential relationship with your Twin Flame. This test will go beyond the initial bliss of falling in love and move towards much deeper aspects of the relationship.

4. The Crisis

There is typically a moment (or many) where you hit a high wall of anxiety and struggle. You worry about your bond and you aren’t sure you will be able to get through the barrier. This could be anything from struggles of self-love to betrayal or grief.

When it happens with extreme crisis, this is where some Twin Flames decide they need to separate. The loss of a child, the unfaithfulness of a spouse, being surprised with deep debt—there are a number of crisis points that can too hard of a hurdle to master. But, separation is very painful when it comes to Twin Flame love because you are giving up part of yourself.

For the mirror souls that make it through difficult points of crisis, there is a point where you can emerge stronger than ever.

5. The Chase

When those tensions mount, it is common for one to leave the relationship emotionally or physically. Whether you are running or chasing, there is going to be a point where this pursuit happens. The less mature and psychospiritually balanced person is going to be the runner, while the more emotionally balanced and mature partner will be the chaser. You have to be patient if you are the chaser and realize this may last days or years.

In the case where someone wronged the other in a major way (like cheating or abuse), the runner is going to be the one hurt and likely to be the more mature and emotionally balanced partner. The chaser is chasing, not because they are more mature, but because they messed things up. In some cases, like abusive relationships and domestic violence, the runner may need to stay away permanently.

6. The Surrender

If the runner realizes that the chaser is right or chooses to forgive the chaser for the deep hurt caused, then the reconciliation can occur. If you can both give up control of the relationship, you will surrender to a deeper connection caused by destiny.

7. The Reunion

The more you work through, the more your oneness strengthens. You will find unity gets easier and easier as you surrender control to God. Twin Flames should ultimately become so joined together and one that they experience little-to-no conflict. This spiritual awakening is a return to a blissful paradise—or a connection that was meant to be.

How to Connect with Your Twin Flame

There is no correct way to seek out your Twin Flame or fancy Law of Attraction manifestation ritual that will bring them to you. Attracting your Twin Flame back to you is fairly simple (and often hard): you need to find true love for yourself. Developing authentic self-love allows the attraction and awakening to occur.

You are going to need to deal with the darkest parts of yourself in order to love your Twin Flame. To be open for the Twin Flame connection, you will need to be balanced and filled with healthy self-love. I would love to help you find this connection and learn more about loving yourself!

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