You may be divorced—but are you truly free from your ex?
A lot of women I’ve worked with have realized that even after the relationship ends on paper, they’re still emotionally tied to their ex. These energetic cords can keep you stuck in frustration, confusion, or even longing… and it’s time to change that.
If you’re ready to fully move on and feel emotionally free, here are 5 powerful shifts to help you stop depending on your ex after a divorce:
1. Stop believing your ex has to change in order for you to heal.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking “I’ll feel better when they finally admit what they did wrong,” or “If only they would change, I could move on.”
But waiting for them to change gives them power over your healing—and keeps you stuck.
The truth is: your healing doesn’t depend on them. It depends on you.
When you take responsibility for your emotional experience, you stop giving them control and start creating peace for yourself.
2. Stop blaming your ex for how you feel.
Yes, your ex may have hurt you. But continuing to blame them keeps you connected to the pain.
I know this can be a tender truth to accept—but it’s also the one that sets you free.
You get to choose how long you carry those emotions. You can acknowledge what happened without staying in the story. When you release blame, you release the emotional grip the past still has on you.
3. Stop looking to your ex for answers.
Sometimes after a breakup, we feel stuck in confusion, replaying conversations, wondering, “Why did they do that?” or “Did they ever really love me?”
This can quickly turn into a loop that keeps you emotionally tied to them—even if you’re not in contact.
But you don’t need answers from them to move forward.
You need clarity from within.
Your healing journey isn’t about understanding them—it’s about understanding yourself.
4. Stop expecting closure to come from them.
The closure you’re seeking may never come in the form of an apology, explanation, or conversation. And that’s okay.
Real closure comes from your own decision to heal and move forward.
That’s where your power is. You can choose to close the chapter in your heart—even if they never show up the way you wanted them to.
5. Stop talking about your ex with friends and family.
It might feel harmless to vent or share updates. But every time you bring them up, you’re reinforcing the emotional connection.
When you stop giving them airtime, you stop giving them energy.
Start focusing your conversations on what brings you joy, what you’re learning about yourself, and the life you’re creating now.
Feeling stuck? Let’s find out why.
If you’re not sure what’s keeping you emotionally attached or why it’s been so hard to move on, I have a simple and powerful next step for you:
Take the free “Stuck Quiz” to discover exactly where your energy is blocked—and what to do about it.
You’ll get personalized guidance to help you take the next step forward—and finally start feeling like yourself again.
Ready to release the emotional weight of your past?
In my Healing Center, I’ve created a session that’s helped thousands of women like you clear the lingering emotional ties to their ex.
“I didn’t even realize how much of my energy was still wrapped up in my ex. This session changed everything.”
You don’t have to wait years to feel better. With the right tools, your energy can shift quickly.
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