“What’s Wrong With Me?” Why You Resist Doing the Healing Work

Why you avoid the work—even when you know you need it.

Are you someone who knows the benefit of doing healing work, but for some reason, you feel resistance to it?

This can lead you to wonder, “What is wrong with me?”

First of all, nothing is wrong with you. In fact, you’re perfectly normal. You see, if you’re feeling resistant to doing any kind of healing work, there’s probably a very good reason for it! Instead of being hard on yourself, let’s dig underneath the surface a little bit to figure out why this is the case.

Once you become aware of the cause, you’ll actually feel motivated to clear that resistance for good.

The presenting issue: you’re avoiding doing the work.

Recently a Healing Center member reached out with this exact dilemma:

“I have issues with following any type of Healing Plan. Yes, I see value and do enjoy some of the sessions. I get bored and just stop whatever it is. I’ve done a few of the single sessions, but don’t feel inspired to do more. I don’t like visualizing exercises. I feel like I’m faking it because I don’t “see” anything. Zero images come to me. I refuse to do any type of role-playing. Again, it feels fake. What the heck is wrong with me? Why won’t I stick with anything?”

When I read her message, I immediately picked up on a wounded inner child who was feeling powerless.

Before we go on, I’m going to turn the focus on you. Take a few minutes to answer these questions:

  • What happened in your childhood that made you feel powerless?
  • What part of you still believes that if you cooperate and participate, you are losing control and no longer have a say?

What came up for you?

It’s common for many adults to experience residual effects from feeling powerless as a child. Going back to the Healing Center member, I shared with her, “My sense is deep down you feel you are giving your power over to someone else if you go along with this. In an effort to ‘be your own person,’ you go to extremes to not participate and follow the plans. This is probably the same tendency that sabotages your relationships. At some point in your childhood (I’m sensing about 13 years old), you subconsciously made a decision you were never going to let anyone control you again. And this belief takes over and keeps you from benefiting from participating and following the healing plans as it feels like you are giving control over to me.”

When this Healing Center member responded, she confirmed it all to be true. Her entire childhood was one of powerlessness. She grew up with physically abusive parents, an alcoholic father, and an abusive brother. Even after moving to a “safe” environment, she was violated by extended family members for years.

“Yes, I was approximately age 12 or 13 when I had enough and refused to do anything that compromised my ethics. I confronted extended relatives, telling them to never touch me again, or there would be terrible consequences. My mother would often warn me not to discuss the goings-on in our home, but I talked to my grandparents and aunt to try to get away from the abuse.

“I finally left when I was 16. My family called it running away; I called it liberating myself from oppression.

“Yes, I have issues with the perception of giving my power over to anyone. Trust doesn’t come easily for me; if someone lies to me I won’t trust them again. The door slams closed. I know many people, have a lot of acquaintances, and 4 friends I trust completely. I’ve been stuck in this experience of inconsistency for years which bothers me. I won’t let anyone tell me what to do. I feel like I want the results, but I’m resistant to working for them. In short, I don’t know how to move past this state.”

How to heal the inner child that’s resisting the work.

In order to move forward, I would recommend doing the following 3 exercises.

To make for an even more supportive experience, use the “I Am Present” Healing Oil alongside each of them. Simply put a few drops in the palms of your hands. Gently place them over your face, taking a deep inhale and exhale.

1. Journal to get clear

Start doing the journaling that I teach in the Healing Plan for Childhood Wounding. Use your dominant hand to ask your 13-year-old self the questions, and then use your non-dominant hand to answer as your 13-year-old self. She is the part of you running your life when it comes to this pattern. At this time, she trusts no one. You’ll be amazed by what she has to share with you.

2. Connect with your heart chakra

Every time you feel resistance, place your hand on your chest, your heart chakra, and say, “It’s safe to let go of this pattern.”

Repeat this 5 times.

3. Reassure your inner child

Imagine your younger self being right there with you, and tell them they are safe now and they no longer have to play this pattern out to be safe.

Repeat this as often as you need to, depending on how your inner child responds. Follow your instincts with this one. After all, your inner child is you!

Why you need to beat the resistance

Do not wait until you “feel” like doing these exercises. Just use your willpower and do them. Every time you don’t follow through, you empower the 13-year-old, and your mind comes up with some clever, but incorrect, reasoning as to why you don’t feel like doing it!

Quite frankly, your 13-year-old self is growing tired of running this pattern. It’s not easy when the energy of the planet is pushing us to wake up and open up!

Remember, if you’re already a Healing Center member, you can access all of these exercises for free. If you’re not a member yet, go through my free Energy Healing Basics Guide to help you get started!

Start Here: Energy Healing Basics Guide


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